How to Adapt to Life’s Changes
Nature can teach us much about adapting to and embracing change in life and growing from it. As the seasons begin to change, it is the perfect time to reflect on your life and the changes you want to make.
I love living in the mountains in the autumn, when the trees begin their transition from summer to winter. The bright colors of the leaves are a sight to behold. When I was little, I often wondered, “What are trees thinking during this time?” A child’s sentiment makes for a perfect analogy regarding life’s changes.
Play along with me as I interpret what the trees may be contemplating:
As the leaves fall from the trees, they begin reflecting on the changes they have made from the previous seasons—both good and bad. Then they turning these changes into lessons to be learned to expand their “tree soul.” They know that as they release their leaves, they also release any negativity limiting their growth.
By embracing change, they let go of the old to become the new tree in the spring.
Perhaps they find themselves digging deeper into the soil for more nutrients as the winter snow blankets them. They may be contemplating what changes they need to make to grow better when the warmer weather returns. In which direction should their branches grow to get more sunlight in the spring?
What we can learn from the trees
There comes a time in everyone’s life when we pause and ponder our present situation. During these moments of reflection, we may feel a sense of dissatisfaction and an inner void, which can adversely affect our overall health and well-being.
We come to a place where we realize that our lives have become a series of events that merely mimic being alive. When we reach this point, it can be overwhelming and even devastatingly sad. We look back on all the decisions that have led us to where we are today. We realize that our lives no longer nourish our souls; in fact, we are starving.
Unlike the trees in autumn, we tend to hold onto our leaves instead of letting go. Most of us simply bury them deeper and deeper within ourselves, especially the negativity.
What I mean is that we hold onto our experiences, even those that may not be true, and that shapes our perception of those events.
How easy it is to misinterpret an email, thinking somebody is being mean when, in fact, it was only your interpretation; it wasn’t true at all. Think about it: when we hold on to our negative experiences, that also includes all the attached emotions that influence how we now perceive life.
For example, we hold on to feelings of mistrust and being hurt; as a result, we become bitter and skeptical about things we used to get pleasure from.
To make matters worse, we replay those experiences in our minds over and over. And let me remind you: the experience only happened once, so why the need to torture ourselves by reliving it hundreds of times over many years? Over time, this becomes the heavy baggage we carry with us, thus preventing us from experiencing new, amazing things that could make us feel alive.
One reason for this is that instead of embracing change, many people fear change, loss, failure, and losing what they have. But the truth is, all things change and evolve. All we really ever have is ourselves and our willingness to adapt, extract the best from our experiences, and grow from them.
Embracing Change
By embracing change with excitement, like a curious child, it can bring a life full of hope, passion, and renewal.
It’s essential to consider that everything in life is related to balance.
Even the worst situations, in retrospect, can be viewed as the best thing that ever happened.
These experiences allowed life to be viewed from a different perspective that may not have been imaginable before. They offer new opportunities and adventures that can spark curiosity and excitement about what lies ahead.
The challenge is to keep your eyes open to the opportunities being presented to you, even in the face of negative events.
While it may appear undesirable to be virtually pushed off a cliff, the real magic happens when you realize you can fly!